Your Masturbation Questions

In this section we answer some of the questions our readers sent in.

If you have a question simply email us from the top of this page and we may have an answer for you.

Daily Practice

I'm horny most of the time. Students at college say I should masturbate before homework so I can concentrate better. Will that help?

Yes, follow their advice. A high sex drive can really interfere with your studies. After relieving sexual tension you will have a few peaceful hours to focus on your homework. When you're done with it, reward yourself with another go.

Reader Reply:

It worked! Every day before and after college I have a go in the bath or shower, often still wearing my clothes because I can't wait. Then I feel refreshed and my grades have improved as I can concentrate on my homework. Thank you.

Why do guys relieve stress by masturbating?

Because it's fun, free and effective. Masturbation is one of the best ways to relieve stress. It releases relaxing hormones that lead to a state of wellbeing.

Why do men masturbate more than women?

Masturbation is universal among men past puberty, while only three quarters of women have done so by their 18th birthday. The reasons why men masturbate are:

1. They enjoy it
2. Their sex drive is higher
3. They release built-up sexual fluids
4. They keep their sperm in good condition

These last two reasons amount to a biological imperative for men to masturbate. Women don't need to do that. So it is understandable that more men masturbate and make a regular healthy habit of it.

I prefer clothed erotic images to nude ones. Is this normal?

Yes, many guys feel this way. Clothes are usually designed to bring out the best in you. Also, there is a sense of being teased when something is left to the imagination.

Wet clothes have a special sensual appeal to many. White clothes may go transparent when wet. Sportswear is popular for this. Give that a try.

When masturbating I usually think about guys. But after I ejaculate, I'm completely grossed out about being gay. What gives?

Forget about straight and gay. What you think about in your fantasy is completely up to you, and private. A lot of guys also think about guys, or both guys and girls. Many straight guys masturbate together regularly because men know what feels good for men.

You should be open to the idea of being straight or being gay, or something in between. Focus on what you'd rather think about and see if you can still ejaculate.

Masturbation is great fun!
Why doesn't everybody do it?

Let us clue you into a little secret: Almost everyone does it, only a few claim to never masturbate. Some researchers say there are no men past puberty who never masturbate. Enjoy!

Is it good to masturbate with friends?

Yes, absolutely. You'll learn to relate to others sexually, instead of playing all alone. Men who remain virgins past the age of 20 have trouble adjusting sexually to a partner. So, go for it!

More straight guys masturbate with male friends these days. It is a nice new trend. Getting wet in clothes seems to help this along as it is very sensual and makes them very horny. Ask your friends if they want to get dressed, get wet, and get horny in the water.

My most satisfying orgasms are those when I clearly feel the progression of the semen all the way through my penis and feel each spurt as it shoots out. Is there a way to make this a part of every ejaculation?

Most guys equate orgasmic pleasure with the quantity of semen ejaculated. Stimulate yourself for as long as possible before ejaculation, delay your orgasm. When you're heavily aroused your body secretes more of the fluids that make up an ejaculation, and they tend to build up. When you finally ejaculate, you'll shoot more semen, and it will feel better. Also, drinking lots of water over an hour or so before each session can help increase the ejaculate volume.